When You Don’t Know What You Want

Feeling stuck or lacking purpose can be a powerful place

Are you in a place where you feel unsure about where you’re going?

Maybe you don’t feel a strong sense of purpose. You feel stuck or lost and you’re not sure what’s next.

This can be an incredibly uncomfortable place to be. But what if this in-between space is not a failure, but a necessary part of the journey?

In fact, it might be more powerful than it seems.

The In-Between Before the Good Stuff

If you’re aware that you’re in the search, that means something in you is already waking up. You’re not sleepwalking through life. You’re asking bigger questions. You’re sensing there’s something more.

That “stuck” feeling? It’s often the pause that comes right before something new and meaningful begins to unfold.

And in that space, you have a chance to prepare, not by pushing but by getting yourself into a good place mentally, emotionally, and physically. It’s like clearing the ground before planting seeds.

Your Only Job Right Now

You will find your purpose. You will feel inspired again. But the best thing you can do in this moment is to tend to your own well-being, so when that spark of clarity comes, you’re ready for it.

Think of this time as a training ground, a quiet preparation phase.

That’s what it was for me.

There was a period in my life where I kept asking, “What is my purpose? Why am I here? What am I meant to be doing?”And the answers didn’t come straight away. I still had to go to work, do things I wasn’t particularly passionate about, and keep showing up for life.

But I believed something better was coming.

So I focused on getting myself into a better place.I healed myself in more ways than one, changed my lifestyle, found presence and focused on being loving and kind to myself. So when the spark finally came, it was perfect timing, because I was ready for it.

What To Do Next

So if you’re in that unclear space right now, here are a few gentle practices that helped me:

🌀 Sit in stillness. Let the questions hang in the air. You don’t need immediate answers.

🌀 Drop into your body. What feels heavy? What feels light? What would feel good right now?

🌀 Nurture yourself. Rest, nourish, tend to your nervous system. Get sunlight, movement, sleep.

🌀 Trust that clarity will come. It always does, when the time is right.

A Gentle Reminder

Try to accept things as they are right now. If something can be changed and it’s in your control, go for it.

But if not, work with what is in your power, and let the rest be.

Try not to rush. There’s growth happening underground.

You are still evolving, even if nothing looks like it’s moving.

And truly, working on yourself is movement. It’s the deepest kind of progress there is.

Journal Prompts for the In-Between

• What would feel peaceful to focus on right now?

• If clarity isn’t here yet, what’s here instead? Can I be with that?

• What small act of care could I give myself today?

You’re not behind, you’re preparing.

And what’s meant for you will find you, when you’re ready.